What would your reaction be?

[JDgreen]

That is a kind of dillema and it is easy for us to pass judgments but at the end of it all, it is you that understands her best.

We all have these unique characters in our families. I would suggest you help her out if you are in a position to.

Thanks for your input, I AM in a position to help her out but choose not to. My wife and I worked steadily for 40 years so we I could afford a comfortable retirement. Now, why should I choose to sacrifice now because a family member wanted to be irresponsible and coast along, doing as little as possible? If the situation were reversed, I know my sister wouldn't give a (bleep) about me. She created her situation, she can live with it.

 

[AndyMan]

... never had money to pay her bills, but always seemed to have funds for cigarettes, new jewelry, or trips to the local casinos.

If you had sent her the money, it's likely she would have used part of it for cigarettes & jewelry, then taken the rest to the casino to get back what she had spent. Then she would have been back asking for more. What you did most likely saved you 8 years of repeating the same thing.

 

[bret]

I think you did her a favor. If you would have given her a handout she would continually expect it. Especially if she is aware you have that kind of money.