How do you handle confrontations?
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because of the job I had I had no choice but to have confrontions on a nightly basis,sometimes multiple times each night with the same person or with different people.Didn't like it but had no choice.now that I'm retired and it's just me and my dogs don't have many so my blood pressure has gone down by many points. russ
Same here:thumbsup:... :smile::smile:KennyV
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When I was employed, I was pretty much the most skilled in what I did where I did, so most of the customers and co workers were understanding that I wanted to do things my way. I did have one co worker who was a screw off and had a poor work ethic, so my choice was to tell him I wasn't going to work with him unless he did his share of the workload...we had a few major disagreements now and then but when he realized how dependent he was on my skills, it pretty much settled the issues.
If someone persists in being confrontional, I say my thoughts, listen to theirs, and we can usually reach a compromise.
I do not like to argue, so compromising is the art of settling differences, wish I was better at it.
If someone persists in being confrontional, I say my thoughts, listen to theirs, and we can usually reach a compromise.
I do not like to argue, so compromising is the art of settling differences, wish I was better at it.
That's good, but I am curious as to what your job was. (Kenny as well.)
Personally I agree with the person who said confrontational people actually feed off your response, but I still find it hard to avoid biting when they start.
I tend to avoid confrontations, because I know I will lose my temper and say exactly what I'm thinking. I keep my mouth shut until they force me to say something, then I let loose. It's harder now that I live in a small town, because I have to remember that I'm going to see these people again, so I try to just do the "keep my mouth shut" part.
A good part of why I live in the middle of nowhere with a good chunk of land and no close neighbors.
A good part of why I live in the middle of nowhere with a good chunk of land and no close neighbors.
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I have learned a lot from people like you touree. I'm very direct and confrontational. The culture of my country leans towards being non-confrontational. That has made my temper even more despicable to many of my co-workers. So, I can affirm what you said that "confrontational people like it when you fight back."
Silence is the best option. I haven't solved anything wholesomely by my temper. Good thing that I'm doing well in learning how to be less confrontational. When my temper really goes up, I would at least delay the "eruption" until I'm in front of a wall that I can punch with my fist. The wound on my fist would later remind me about the futility of anger.
I have spent most of my life working with the public so confrontations are a commonplace in that line of work, I tried to remain calm and keep cool, after though I usually went alone for myself and cooled down a bit.
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I worked at the Veterans Hosp. on an acute admitting psych. unit for 34yrs. we admitted drunks,crack heads,meth heads,schizos. ,bi polars,suicideals,ptsd and everything in between.lots and lots of confrontations and I don't miss it at all.I will say I never disrespected any clinent and always gave good care but confrontations came with the job. russ