Lot of people set the wrong valve ON the wrong valve. They mistake intake for exhaust. Confirm what valve you are on. The video seems proper.
His video description is alarming. He said at 0.004" it was tight but okay. To me tight is not in spec for clearance.
Lastly with the feeler gauge, all you need is a SLIGHT DRAG. Like pulling a sheet of paper out of a closed book.
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