Usually those are spring washers and need to go on so that it's cupped upwards toward the blade. And note that you should always disconnect the spark plug when doing any work on the mower, just grab the rubber boots and pull if off and make sure its away from the spark plug.
Are you using a block of wood wedged between the deck and the blade to tighten it? If you're just holding it with your hand you likely aren't getting it tight enough.
Thank you for answering. I didn't know about the block of wood. I was just using my hand. I will try that.