After reading this old thread, I just felt compelled to say to the op that YOU are AWESOME! I love how you just get in there and get your hands on this stuff! With a learn as you go attitude. Doing what's gotta get done. Wow!
But to the fellas that have responded to this, I have to say that I'm a bit disappointed. The responses were all over the road. You guys need to think about how this information ( or mis-information) is used. It lives on the internet, forever.
It's likely too late to help this brave woman, who has had to pick up the slack, that's left behind when a significant other passes. She's likely worked it out by now.
But I'll say this for all the other folks out there, that may not know this.
I didn't know that sharpening a mower blade on these things were that complicated, until you guys explained it.
See, all this time, I've just been using a cheap dremel tool. There's a Dremel blade sharpening kit. It's very inexpensive, although I can't link the info, I got mine at Lowe's. This tool takes off a minimum of material, and sharpens quite nicely. There are many other ways of sharpening, but for me this is the best for diy. The local mower shop will also do it for very little money, if you take off the blades, and take them to the shop. As far as balance goes, this is mostly for the single blade, direct drive, push mowers. Our mowers are belt driven, and not as sensitive to blade balance. Common sense applies here. Blades don't have to be knife sharp, but evenly sharp is good. Take the blades off the mower, for sharpening. Car ramps, or a jack can be very helpful, and highly recommended. I use a mower lift. Harbor freight is a good source for a cheap lift. I use a vise to hold the blade, while sharpening. Take the blades off one at a time, if you're concerned about correctly replacing them. Torque specs, aren't critical, but a long handle wrench, or ratchet, should provide plenty of tightening ability, with normal strength.
Penetrating lubricant, applied hours beforehand will help loosen the bolts. And greasing the spindles is definitely recommended. Put it back together, and you're ready to go!
Just please remember, that this size of mower is heavy. If it falls, it can hurt you. So be careful, and take your time, be safe, those you love are counting on you! Happy Mowing!