You are correct... the lowest rpm you can expose stationary components to , the better everything will endure that shock...
Engines are being built with HP and Torque ratings that are generally at or near operation rpm. That Plus a reduction in flywheel (and associated rotational weight including clutch parts)... there is not enough inertia at lower (more desirable rpms)... Most modern engines will stall near idle rpm.... that will generate a lot of customer complaints, so the 'fix' is increase the rpm and assume that slippage will take care of the added shock load.
The best you will be able to do is find the lowest you can engage the clutch without killing the engine... :smile:KennyV