That is up to you Ric,
obviously your troubled by this.
If that's the case, let your heart be your guide. Do what you think you need to do.
If this guy is on a battlefield risking or perhaps giving his life for your freedoms, why should you cut him or his widow a break?
After all, your paying for this conflict....right? Your paying for his house, his medical bills and family's medical bills. Do you really need to help pay for his lawn care?
figure it out. and be sure to let us know what you've done to solve this dilemma.