I finally got the rotor off. I didn't want to drill into it if I could avoid it, so took quite a while researching and asking questions on Amazon. None of the products looked as if they would definitely work, and the answers weren't solid. I could have bought and returned, but thought that seeing pullers in a store might be good.
Harbor Freight didn't have anything better than I already had (cast arms too big). I did learn that the pullers I thought might work were designed for tapped holes.
Next stop Autozone, who rents tools but didn't have anything better.
Then finally O'Reilly, who also rents. I got an Evertough 2/3 jaw 2 ton puller with a jaw small enough to fit behind the rotor. I wasn't able to get the rotor off without heat, which meant another trip because I'd mislaid my propane blowtorch kit. It didn't take a lot of heat, and now there is some clean up to do, plus anti-seize fluid (so O'Reilly will make something even if my rental charge is $0 because I'll return in the 48hr window).
I don't think I'll need the puller again in a hurry, but here's pretty much the same thing (can't find it on O'Reilly) for $41.
https://www.amazon.com/OEMTOOLS-25919-Long-Gear-Puller/dp/B0014WDK5A I used it in 3 jaw mode because there was enough room but I like the 2/3/ jaw flexibility.
Hopefully I can get it back together this weekend (with the old brake pads which don't have much wear).
Thanks for the help and ideas!