rotate the piece and pattern you do. Another option is find a machine shop with a good belt sander that does NOT have a new belt on it cause that is soft aluminum. They can flatten it in seconds. I used to lay small heads, manifolds etc on a belt sander, move them to a couple different positions so it sanded evenly and in a minute I had a level surface. One thing you will run into is that if you keep milling that head you are raising compression which will cause other issues on a worn engine.
You used a copper head gasket. Copper has no give if it is hard. It gets annealed to soften it so it can compress. The Type 4 VW engine I have on a bus uses copper rings on the exhaust to seal it against the head. If they are put on as is the copper is so hard the copper rings will bounce and ring like a small bell if you drop one on concrete. But if they are annealed to cherry in color they get softer so if one drops it then it will go thud and deform. That has to be done on them before using them or they are too hard to deform to seal. I use factory gaskets myself on engines, even when in my racing days and have never had one not seal. I've had blown head gaskets on engines but it always happened over time.