The cup depth Bert talks about is important as I measured it at .080" on my Intek. This means that if the pushrod is hung up on the rim of the cup and you miss it, but it "seats," that pushrod will probably jump out of contact with the rocker arm and (hopefully) wait for you to find it after one cyl stops, or (horrors) it wanders into the oil sump and causes major problems.
For the newbie a couple more tips that may help. When tightening you should always check AGAIN after setting the gap (clearance). What typically happens (to me) is that the clearance you want has changed during the last bit of locking torque to the adjuster nut. Leaving the feeler in place has not helped me, it typically results in clamping action which is clearance below the one I want. ( I may be no good at this). I typically have to do each valve a couple times before satisfied.
Another skill for the newbie is judging when that feeler gauge strip gives off the "proper" feel so that you really have .005", for instance. Trying to describe this "feeling " is like trying to describe the feeling when you first remain upright when learning to ride a bicycle . I can't.
But be aware that you can easily use a thicker feeler gauge strip and push it past the intended clearance due to the lightweight valve springs used . When you do this you cannot necessarily feel that action without some practice. But if you go too thick you should feel the unwanted "clamping" action. Try using feelers below and above the clearance you want, and hopefully this will help. The sensation that may describe a proper "feel" is perhaps coating index and thumb and feeler strip with oil and pinching the feeler with moderate pressure while withdrawing it.
Pros should chime in here and improve/correct this discussion. ....give me hydraulic lifters any time.